Life Advice N Motivation -Week 5: Habits; The Good, The Bad & The Ugly.

Habits. Some we grow to have as a child, some develop within just 14 days of repeating. But which ones are good for us? Which should we give up for the sake of our mental , emotional and physical health?

This week on Life advice & Motivation we evaluate what we do on a regular basis , and  what we really should be doing on a regular basis.

As children we are raised to live by a norm, of when to eat, when to sleep, what to do and what not to do. As we grow older, we loose good habits, and hold on to new and usually bad ones. When it comes to the bad ones, we usually dont realize that they are hurting us, because we do them everyday. Only a deep look at long term effects would show the harmfull effects of a habbit such as smoking.

Bad habits tend to take over our lives silently and lead us into a downward spiral of negativity, poor health and sometimes almost no way out.

But what is the key to having the right habbits and getting out and rid of the bad ones?

The first is to recognize what habbits are causing negative changes in your emotional, mental and physical state.

Once you have recognized these habits, you must realy choose if you want to change them or not.

For example, A person who has a habbit of smoking, perhaps an addiction, likes to smoke but wants to quit.

What does it take to do so?

Two words. Will Power.

And if your a smoker, try BBQ flavoured sunflower seeds! They are just as addictive and better for your health!

How strong are we on the inside that we can set aside bad habits? And how week are we on the inside that we let bad habits, even pathetic objects take over us and bring us down?

These are all questions we want followers to ask themselves this week.

But how do we really get rid of a bad habbit? By replacing it with a good one.

It takes 14 days to learn a habit, for instance, Jogging every day, will get you into the routine of jogging every day. Eating properly for two weeks straight will get you into the habit of always eating properly.

Things to try this week : Stop doing something that is bad for you!, Start doing something that is good for you! Try doing this for 2 weeks straight.

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 4: Love, Hate, & Relationships - valentines day special!

Love.  

Love, like a mothers, should be unconditional; No Matter What. 

Our whole lives we are exposed to the idea of love and being in love. 

always having that one person who we can share our hearts and our lives with , peacefully , forever and ever. 

To most of us as the years have gone by, it has started to sound like a fairy tale.  Most of us think the same thing when we see couples walk by us : "they look so perfect. So perfect , they make me sick! "

Realistically they are probably going through their weekly fights, arguments and problems in their relationship behind the scenes. 

All of us have been used, abused, put through hell, and fallen in love only to come out with hate in our hearts. Besides the personal experiences and heartbreaks we have all had, What does it really take to be in a healthy relationship? And how do you know if you want one or not? 

It all starts with YOURSELF.

When jumping into love and relationships, we often jump into them with expectations of the other person. 

Women have expectations of how men should speak , look, act & be, and men have an expectation of how women should speak, look , act & be. This is the main problem. We Must stop looking at each other as different genders or by expected traits and just look at each other as human beings. 

What we do wrong is we look for certain qualities and preferences that we want the person we love to have. But this is WRONG and completely the opposite meaning of what love is.

Love is not something that WANTS anything from someone else. 

Love is a selfless, and giving sense of appreciation towards something or someone for just being themselves and what/who they are. 

Getting along with somebody in a relationship, starts with having the same basic principles. 

Refering back to Recognizing the self in week one on Life Advice & motivation, we know that we must live by principle. PATIENCE,RESPECT, HONOUR, LOYALTY, COMMITMENT, HARD WORK, KINDNESS, EQUITY, INTEGRITY, ECT. 

To know if your ready to be in a relationship, you must first look at yourself and see if you live by principle and love who you are. If you feel compete as a person and are happy with yourself. You are ready to be with someone else. If you are not fully developed as the person you want to be in life, and wish to make changes to yourself or your lifestyle or have goals that you would like to accomplish, you are not ready for a relationship. 

When getting to know a person you find interest in, try and recognize if they are a character of principle. Couples with the same values will always get along. Two people who are patient can always wait for each other, two people who are respectful and understanding will always treat each other that way. even without expectation, love will come naturally between the two for the qualities that you recognize and love in yourself, will mirror in your lover. 

Relationship killers are known to be : Jealousy, Assumptions, Control, Lack of trust, and Money!

The first four, usually come from the self. Where we create ideas about the future that arent true or havent happend yet. if you are currently in a relationship and you feel jealous, insecure, you make assumptions that your partner is doing you wrong, you have lack of trust, and have become controlling, The problem is within yourself. Being able to recognize these signs in your partner is also very important, because this shows that either you , or your partner are not developed enough as a person to be strong mentally and emotionally to be able to keep a healthy relationship. 

If you are in a relationship and you find problems with money and sharing are coming into play. the issue is simply that you must not share from the same loaf of bread. You must share with each other from your own bread, but do not share from the same loaf. In otherwords, Be who you are separately, but share with eachother, only peices of yourselves.

Things to try this week : 

- go out of your way to show appreciation towards someone

- watch a romatic movie 

- give thanks to a loved one

- reevaluate who you are and what your morals values and principles are

- dont give up hope in LOVE!

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 3 : Fear Of The Future

Worry! Worry! Worry! Fear! Fear! Fear!

All causes of over thinking!

We all do it, and its always about the future.
What if this...
what if that....

Constantly thinking about whats going to happen in the future causes fear,
 panic and anxiety. It prevents us from doing things we need to do or should do.
it keeps us from enjoying life to its fullest and we are losing out on the present moment by
 worrying about whats going to happen tomorow or in 5 years from now .

Some of the most common fears that people generally have are :

fear of flying,
fear of public speaking
fear of hights
fear of the dark
fear of intimacy
fear of rejection


All fears that something is going to happen in the future. Life advice and motivation, says:
The only Life that exists is right now, Not yesterday , not 10 years ago,Not 2 minutes from now, and not tomorow.
Only right now exists, and as we worry about something that could possibly happen in the next 4 minutes , we allow fear
to controll us from enjoying the present moment of life that we are blessed with.

This week on Life advice and Motivation , we learn: The past and the future are illusions. The past does not exist anymore, and the future does not exist yet.

You might say, "its better to be safe than sorry", but most of the time there isnt as big of a possibility as we actually imagine.

For example someone with a fear of hights might imagine getting into a plane crash,
but they forget that thousands of people travel every day peacefully and easily.

Somebody who is afraid of rejection wont even try something because they create an image of failing or getting rejected in their mind.

Here is a deep video on fear by inspirational spiritual teacher Jiddu Krishnamurti:



Whatever our fears are, They are caused by unconciousness of the present moment and a useless and unrealistic vision of the future. By letting these feelings take over us, we lose motivation, and control of ourselves and our lives. chances and opportunities that we should face fearlessly we lose by letting fear of the future come between enjoying the present moment we have in life.

There are two ways to look at time:

Psychological time - things that we create in our minds that we think will happen in time such as falling , crashing, getting into an accident, or any common fear we have.

Practical time - Having an appointment on Friday, or an exam next month.

The only time that we should really live by is practical time, otherwise the psychological time thats created in our minds about the future just get in the way of enjoying the present moment which is life itself.


This week on life advice and motivation we ask you to try:

- something that you never do
- something that you are scared to do
- encourage somebody who is afraid not to be afraid
- follow us on twitter , facebook and pinterest!!
- Check our videos on the motivational videos page along with our quotes on our motivational quotes page

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 2: Stuck In The Past

This Week on Life Advice & Motivation : Time and the past.

Its our best friend and potentially our worst enemy. It is potentially what drives us to move forward and what burdens us from moving forward. But this week on Life Advice and Motivation, we ask..... whether the past leaves us with unforgettable pain from deaths, sicknesses, breakups and failures or leaves us with sweet memories, Does the past really exist in the present moment? 

Perhaps it does, but when we let it , in our minds the past exists in the present moment. as we let good and bad memories of our past take hold of how we feel in the present moment. A truth is, The only Life that exists is right now. Not yesterday. Not 5 years ago. Being mentally awake, conscious and present in the moment allows us to focus more on our goals and the things were doing. Being angry at a rude comment somebody made towards you for example creates emotions that cause you to be distracted from how good your lunch tastes. 

Connecting negative memories of the past to certain objects, days, people, things or places, also cause baggage and are things we need to remind ourselves to stop thinking about in order to live in the moment happily. Think about it , there's a reason why history is history, and the past is the past, its gone, we too often let it consume us through our thoughts and ruin right now for us. The Love Guru once said " A good distraction heals emotional pain" . and this is true, things that consume us in the present moment such as hobbies help us focus on taking part in our hobby itself. 

Heres a very insightful video by Eckhart Tolle that shows us the effect of being present in the moment: 

Life, Advice & Motivation says, moments where we feel most emotional are when the past has the biggest toll on us. Things to try this week are: 

- think about what your doing RIGHT NOW when you are angry or sad from thinking about something that Just happened to you. The more you practice this the more you start to enjoy life in the moment, where it really exists!

- meditate! Relax!  and fully focus on something that your doing at the moment such as a hobby you like to do to keep your mind off things that are hurting you!

Next week on Life Advice and Motivation we talk about : Fear of The Future. 

Also Stay tuned for our valentines day special On love and hate and relationships!

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