Life Advice N Motivation -Week 11: Faceing The Painful Truth

This week on life advice and motivation, we talk about....

The Truth.
Or perhaps its better to say The Truths of life because there is more than one truth in life.

Sometimes truths of life that we come to face are amazing, other times they are painful and ugly. so much so that we can barely go on at peace in our lives.

at times things are so bad that we have no motivation to go on. we lose all hope in everything.

A great strength comes from being able to accept what is before us and move forward through the obstacles.

accepting things such as death, loss, failure, or rejection, become a challenge.

So we ask, how do we face a truth that is painful?

well life, advice, & motivation says

accepting, surrendering and becoming aware of the pressent moment is key!.

often times we make assumptions or start to overthink situations, making it hard to accept the situation before us as it is.

a famous quote by eckhart tolle : we look at reality through the screen of our thinking and our judgment which is conditioned by the past.

being able to deal with a situation that hurts us means we have to accept it and move forward.
Moving forward to finding the next best possible solution

this week on life advice and motivation we want you to find the next best solution to a problem or truth that you face in your life that hurts you so badly.

Remember, What doesnt kill you makes you stronger!!

next weeks topic ! saying goodbye !!

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 10: Erasing The Ego

The EGO.

What is it?

1. The self, especially as distinct from the world and other selves.
2. In psychoanalysis, the division of the psyche that is conscious, most immediately controls thought and behavior, and is most in touch with external reality.
3.
a. An exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit.
b. Appropriate pride in oneself; self-esteem.

we all know more or less what the ego is.
But some important questions we need to ask are:

Do we recognize our own egos within ourselves?
What does the ego do and how does it effect us?


when somebody thinks highly of themselves we call them egotistical. however being egotistical also occurs when we think lowly of ourselves or victimizing ourselves, or when we subconciously seek attention.

jealousy , insecurity, anger and such feelings all come from the ego. negative aspects of pride, arrogance, and sense of self all come in the form of subconcious thoughts in our head, initially from our egos.Name calling, bullying, or any type of negative expression that makes us subconciously feel better than someone else, is caused by the ego.

to erase the negitivity of the ego, we must first recognize it. to be able to identify that one is being jealous, insecure, angry, egotistical, depressed, sad, spoiled, or whatever it may be, will allow us to make the decision to stop being that way. habitually living without an ego creates charming people within our characters. we learn to live with and appreciate the things we have and treat people and ourselves the way we should be treated.



this week on life advice and motivation we want you to recognize yourself being egotistical, and never do it again!

check out this weeks video and new quotes on the ego on our motivational quotes and videos pages!

Life Advice & Motivation -Week 9: The Art of Appreciation

This week on life advice_ & motivation, we talk about appreciation: A principle that most people forget to practice.

Everyone wants to feel appreciated, but not everybody gives appreciation. But but appreciation for people isnt the only thing that we willbe talking about this week.

APPRECIATION for all things is what we want to teach on life advice and motivation.
Often times we are so busy thinking about the things we want but dont have.
we often forget to appreciate people and deeds, we forget to appreciate things we do have, and most of all we forget to appreciate being alive, sometimes we even forget how to appreciate ourselves!

We ask : Why should we appreciate anyways and why is it important?

The definition of apprecitation shows for itself!

ap·pre·ci·a·tion (-prsh-shn)
n.
1. Recognition of the quality, value, significance, or magnitude of people and things.
2. A judgment or opinion, especially a favorable one.
3. An expression of gratitude.
4. Awareness or delicate perception, especially of aesthetic qualities or values.
5. A rise in value or price, especially over time.

Often times when we get used to having something or somebody doing a favor of some sort for us, it becomes an expectation or because we are so used to having it, we forget to appreciate it because we think its always there.
this applies to relationships, opportunities, assets, and time.

being able to show appreciation is an art because most of us don't do it at all, but it would benefit both us and others in great ways.

The hardest thing about appreciation is seeing past the distractions that stop us from seeing the value in what we have. often wen we lose things we realize we should have appreciation. so its true that we only realize somethings worth when its gone!

this week on life advice & motivation we want you to appreciate something or notice something or someone that you usually dont. show someone appreciation and be thankful towards them, or simply just be thankful for the things you have!!! this weeks video :

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 8: The Origin of Emotion

Anger, sadness, jealousy, happiness, fear, and the list goes on.
Emotions, where do they come from? What sparks them?

You might say, emotions come from things that other people do to us, or things that happen in our lives, but emotions realy come from thoughts.

for example, fear is caused by a thought of something happening in the future, sadness is caused by thoughts of the past or memories, anger is caused by thoughts of disbelief. anxiety is caused by thinking too much!!!

Every emotion is initially caused by a thought.Especially because thoughts build on each other its hard to keep your mind clear constantly. This week on life advice & motivation, we teach that if you can eliminate negative thoughts,and stay conscious in the present moment , we can eliminate emotion. to avoid thoughts using distraction is a helpful tool to keep our minds off of things that make us feel certain feelings.

learning to be aware of the thoughts we have, will allow us to make the choice to think about other things that dont spark certain feelings. ALso, instead of ignoring our emotions or supressing them, if we do not look into our emotions, we will always be stuck with those emotions. this is because thought processes recreate emotion constantly.



this weeks motivational video is a deep explanation about emotion by spiritual teacher eckhart tolle,



this week on life advice and motivation, we want you to try puting negative energy, thoughts and emotion into a positive action!

stay tuned for next week

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 7 : Prioritizing; Life Management

Since we kept our followers waiting this week, we will be talking about procrastinating, poor time management, and prioritizing on life advice and motivation.

what prevents us from prioritizing properly? what causes us to procrastinate? 

The human condition is : Thinking. 

Thinking causes feelings to spark in us, causing different moods to decide what we wanna do over what we should be doing. 

If you too find that you are not getting things done in your life, and when you look back on your life your life is gone, then its time too sit down and realy figure out what you want to do with your life and whats realy important. starting with thinking about whats most important to you.

To think about the value of the outcome of the things you have to do, along with the consequences of what would happend if you didnt get the things you need to get done , done..

day turns to night and night turns to day again and when we ask ourselves what we have acomplished.

the key to getting things done is finding the will to focus.
this week on life advice and motivation we ask, what gives you the will to focus and get things done from most imporant, to least important? what is your motivation ? what would the consequences be if you didnt get something you should done? and is doing something less important worth the consequential outcome of not doing it?

This weeks video:

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 6: Choosing friends

Friends. They love us, They hurt us, They leave us, They are there for us, they do stupid things with us. But Who are they? Do we really need them? And if we do, what impact do they have and which are the right ones for us? 
Naturally, we attract to those who are similar to ourselves in character - hobbies, likes, dislikes, principles, values , morals. but sometimes our friends dont do us the favour of being benefitial motivationally. 
Friends are like habits, you have good ones and bad ones and both effect you the same way as good or bad habits do. Being able to complement the goals you have in your life with the right people is an important thing. 
for example if you have goals of being successful in school or in your career choice, would it be better to make friends with people who are extra curricularly involved in things related or not related to what your major focus in life is?

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."- Anais Nin 

The following quote shows us that friends become a part of us, and influence us hugely. 
every one can make friends easily if we realy try, but life advice and motivation says, in life we must cut out the wrong people in our lives, just like how we should cut out our bad habits, such as eating too much salt, or smoking. the more we intake something that leads us to unhealthy things, the more we have a negative and down hill effect on ourselves. The truth is, the people we let into our lives usualy have a bigger negative impact on us than our regular habits that we take part in.

This week on life advice & motivation, we want you to re-evaluate your friends and the people in your life that impact it negitivily. this week is all about observing who is good for us and who is bad for us and who we need to get rid of in our lives in order to live better and reach certain goals. 
This weeks video talks about cutting off destructive relationships with people who have a negative effect on us in our lives and prevent us from reaching our goals. 

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 5: Habits; The Good, The Bad & The Ugly.

Habits. Some we grow to have as a child, some develop within just 14 days of repeating. But which ones are good for us? Which should we give up for the sake of our mental , emotional and physical health?

This week on Life advice & Motivation we evaluate what we do on a regular basis , and  what we really should be doing on a regular basis.

As children we are raised to live by a norm, of when to eat, when to sleep, what to do and what not to do. As we grow older, we loose good habits, and hold on to new and usually bad ones. When it comes to the bad ones, we usually dont realize that they are hurting us, because we do them everyday. Only a deep look at long term effects would show the harmfull effects of a habbit such as smoking.

Bad habits tend to take over our lives silently and lead us into a downward spiral of negativity, poor health and sometimes almost no way out.

But what is the key to having the right habbits and getting out and rid of the bad ones?

The first is to recognize what habbits are causing negative changes in your emotional, mental and physical state.

Once you have recognized these habits, you must realy choose if you want to change them or not.

For example, A person who has a habbit of smoking, perhaps an addiction, likes to smoke but wants to quit.

What does it take to do so?

Two words. Will Power.

And if your a smoker, try BBQ flavoured sunflower seeds! They are just as addictive and better for your health!

How strong are we on the inside that we can set aside bad habits? And how week are we on the inside that we let bad habits, even pathetic objects take over us and bring us down?

These are all questions we want followers to ask themselves this week.

But how do we really get rid of a bad habbit? By replacing it with a good one.

It takes 14 days to learn a habit, for instance, Jogging every day, will get you into the routine of jogging every day. Eating properly for two weeks straight will get you into the habit of always eating properly.

Things to try this week : Stop doing something that is bad for you!, Start doing something that is good for you! Try doing this for 2 weeks straight.

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 4: Love, Hate, & Relationships - valentines day special!

Love.  

Love, like a mothers, should be unconditional; No Matter What. 

Our whole lives we are exposed to the idea of love and being in love. 

always having that one person who we can share our hearts and our lives with , peacefully , forever and ever. 

To most of us as the years have gone by, it has started to sound like a fairy tale.  Most of us think the same thing when we see couples walk by us : "they look so perfect. So perfect , they make me sick! "

Realistically they are probably going through their weekly fights, arguments and problems in their relationship behind the scenes. 

All of us have been used, abused, put through hell, and fallen in love only to come out with hate in our hearts. Besides the personal experiences and heartbreaks we have all had, What does it really take to be in a healthy relationship? And how do you know if you want one or not? 

It all starts with YOURSELF.

When jumping into love and relationships, we often jump into them with expectations of the other person. 

Women have expectations of how men should speak , look, act & be, and men have an expectation of how women should speak, look , act & be. This is the main problem. We Must stop looking at each other as different genders or by expected traits and just look at each other as human beings. 

What we do wrong is we look for certain qualities and preferences that we want the person we love to have. But this is WRONG and completely the opposite meaning of what love is.

Love is not something that WANTS anything from someone else. 

Love is a selfless, and giving sense of appreciation towards something or someone for just being themselves and what/who they are. 

Getting along with somebody in a relationship, starts with having the same basic principles. 

Refering back to Recognizing the self in week one on Life Advice & motivation, we know that we must live by principle. PATIENCE,RESPECT, HONOUR, LOYALTY, COMMITMENT, HARD WORK, KINDNESS, EQUITY, INTEGRITY, ECT. 

To know if your ready to be in a relationship, you must first look at yourself and see if you live by principle and love who you are. If you feel compete as a person and are happy with yourself. You are ready to be with someone else. If you are not fully developed as the person you want to be in life, and wish to make changes to yourself or your lifestyle or have goals that you would like to accomplish, you are not ready for a relationship. 

When getting to know a person you find interest in, try and recognize if they are a character of principle. Couples with the same values will always get along. Two people who are patient can always wait for each other, two people who are respectful and understanding will always treat each other that way. even without expectation, love will come naturally between the two for the qualities that you recognize and love in yourself, will mirror in your lover. 

Relationship killers are known to be : Jealousy, Assumptions, Control, Lack of trust, and Money!

The first four, usually come from the self. Where we create ideas about the future that arent true or havent happend yet. if you are currently in a relationship and you feel jealous, insecure, you make assumptions that your partner is doing you wrong, you have lack of trust, and have become controlling, The problem is within yourself. Being able to recognize these signs in your partner is also very important, because this shows that either you , or your partner are not developed enough as a person to be strong mentally and emotionally to be able to keep a healthy relationship. 

If you are in a relationship and you find problems with money and sharing are coming into play. the issue is simply that you must not share from the same loaf of bread. You must share with each other from your own bread, but do not share from the same loaf. In otherwords, Be who you are separately, but share with eachother, only peices of yourselves.

Things to try this week : 

- go out of your way to show appreciation towards someone

- watch a romatic movie 

- give thanks to a loved one

- reevaluate who you are and what your morals values and principles are

- dont give up hope in LOVE!

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 3 : Fear Of The Future

Worry! Worry! Worry! Fear! Fear! Fear!

All causes of over thinking!

We all do it, and its always about the future.
What if this...
what if that....

Constantly thinking about whats going to happen in the future causes fear,
 panic and anxiety. It prevents us from doing things we need to do or should do.
it keeps us from enjoying life to its fullest and we are losing out on the present moment by
 worrying about whats going to happen tomorow or in 5 years from now .

Some of the most common fears that people generally have are :

fear of flying,
fear of public speaking
fear of hights
fear of the dark
fear of intimacy
fear of rejection


All fears that something is going to happen in the future. Life advice and motivation, says:
The only Life that exists is right now, Not yesterday , not 10 years ago,Not 2 minutes from now, and not tomorow.
Only right now exists, and as we worry about something that could possibly happen in the next 4 minutes , we allow fear
to controll us from enjoying the present moment of life that we are blessed with.

This week on Life advice and Motivation , we learn: The past and the future are illusions. The past does not exist anymore, and the future does not exist yet.

You might say, "its better to be safe than sorry", but most of the time there isnt as big of a possibility as we actually imagine.

For example someone with a fear of hights might imagine getting into a plane crash,
but they forget that thousands of people travel every day peacefully and easily.

Somebody who is afraid of rejection wont even try something because they create an image of failing or getting rejected in their mind.

Here is a deep video on fear by inspirational spiritual teacher Jiddu Krishnamurti:



Whatever our fears are, They are caused by unconciousness of the present moment and a useless and unrealistic vision of the future. By letting these feelings take over us, we lose motivation, and control of ourselves and our lives. chances and opportunities that we should face fearlessly we lose by letting fear of the future come between enjoying the present moment we have in life.

There are two ways to look at time:

Psychological time - things that we create in our minds that we think will happen in time such as falling , crashing, getting into an accident, or any common fear we have.

Practical time - Having an appointment on Friday, or an exam next month.

The only time that we should really live by is practical time, otherwise the psychological time thats created in our minds about the future just get in the way of enjoying the present moment which is life itself.


This week on life advice and motivation we ask you to try:

- something that you never do
- something that you are scared to do
- encourage somebody who is afraid not to be afraid
- follow us on twitter , facebook and pinterest!!
- Check our videos on the motivational videos page along with our quotes on our motivational quotes page

Life Advice N Motivation -Week 2: Stuck In The Past

This Week on Life Advice & Motivation : Time and the past.

Its our best friend and potentially our worst enemy. It is potentially what drives us to move forward and what burdens us from moving forward. But this week on Life Advice and Motivation, we ask..... whether the past leaves us with unforgettable pain from deaths, sicknesses, breakups and failures or leaves us with sweet memories, Does the past really exist in the present moment? 

Perhaps it does, but when we let it , in our minds the past exists in the present moment. as we let good and bad memories of our past take hold of how we feel in the present moment. A truth is, The only Life that exists is right now. Not yesterday. Not 5 years ago. Being mentally awake, conscious and present in the moment allows us to focus more on our goals and the things were doing. Being angry at a rude comment somebody made towards you for example creates emotions that cause you to be distracted from how good your lunch tastes. 

Connecting negative memories of the past to certain objects, days, people, things or places, also cause baggage and are things we need to remind ourselves to stop thinking about in order to live in the moment happily. Think about it , there's a reason why history is history, and the past is the past, its gone, we too often let it consume us through our thoughts and ruin right now for us. The Love Guru once said " A good distraction heals emotional pain" . and this is true, things that consume us in the present moment such as hobbies help us focus on taking part in our hobby itself. 

Heres a very insightful video by Eckhart Tolle that shows us the effect of being present in the moment: 

Life, Advice & Motivation says, moments where we feel most emotional are when the past has the biggest toll on us. Things to try this week are: 

- think about what your doing RIGHT NOW when you are angry or sad from thinking about something that Just happened to you. The more you practice this the more you start to enjoy life in the moment, where it really exists!

- meditate! Relax!  and fully focus on something that your doing at the moment such as a hobby you like to do to keep your mind off things that are hurting you!

Next week on Life Advice and Motivation we talk about : Fear of The Future. 

Also Stay tuned for our valentines day special On love and hate and relationships!

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Life Advice N Motivation -Week 1: Recognizing The Self

So, everybody... here we are in life trying to follow the guide were given : We are born, we go to school, we find a job, become successful, we find some love, have a little fun, get married, travel, have children, retire, and come to the end of our journey. How simple is that, right? The truth is, as everybody would agree, its not. Naturally we come across bumps in the road, some harder to cross than others. Deaths, failures, depression, sickness, drama, stress, addictions, financial problems, relationships, and other expectations of life. The list is endless, but  how do we handle these situations without them progressing into more extreme problems? Some of us want to lose weight, some of us want more money, some of us want to quit smoking, some of us are stuck in abusive relationships. Whatever problems your stuck with in life, have no fear, for the cure and the cause of every problem is but one thing : The SELF.

Some of us are too busy going on with our lives to even stop and learn to use it to our advantage. Often times in life we come across moments where we question our existence but we usually misinterpret our hobbies, belongings, culture, religion, family,surroundings, habits, etc. to be who we are. We create a personality and character for ourselves using material things. We center our lives around money, clothes, sex, family, boyfriends, drugs, partying, school, work and even ourselves, letting our egos go wild, wanting certain things more selfishly than others creating an in balance between the things in our lives.

Ask yourself, what do I centre my life around? If your answer is not "PRINCIPLES", then that's probably why you have problems in your life in the first place.

prin·ci·ple [prin-suh-puhl]  

noun

1.an accepted or professed rule of action or conduct: a person of good moral principles.

What does this mean?

This means that to begin your journey to finding motivation to be successful and happy in life, you need to center your life around PRINCIPLES: 

RESPECT, HONOR, LOYALTY, TRUST, INTEGRITY,HOPE, EQUITY, HARD WORK, PATIENCE. 

The Lesson of the week is : Every situation we are faced with in life, must be dealt with using principles, we must not center our lives around material things, people, or habits, but principles such as respect and loyalty. This must be the focus of every action we make in life. For with good intentions and positivity, comes good things and more positivity! 

Things to try this week:

- Show respect towards someone 

-be the living expression of kindness

- Practice being patient with something that annoys you.

-Dont tell a lie!

- Stay Positive!

- Appreciate the things you have and dont ask for more!

Next weeks Topic: Stuck In The Past and Lost In The Future